The holidays are a time of joy, laughter, and cherished moments with loved ones—or at least, that's the vision we hold. For many, however, Christmas gatherings can also bring frustration as old dynamics resurface and differing personalities clash. It's in these moments that our sense of control is tested. But here’s the truth: there are only four things within our control—our own thoughts, feelings, words and actions.
When faced with the (un) predictability of family gatherings, remember this: you cannot control how others behave or respond. Aunt Susan’s probing questions, or your brother’s unsolicited political views? Neither are within your circle of control. At best you can attempt to influence their position, but control the words that come out of their mouths? Not a chance. What you can control is how you choose to engage, react, and most importantly, how you show up.
This Christmas let’s focus on being authentic to ourselves and kind to others. When we accept that we’re only responsible for our own thoughts, feelings, words and actions, we relieve the pressure of trying to control others. Show up with kindness, stay true to your values, and let go of the need to "fix" or "manage" the holiday dynamics. By doing so, you not only preserve your own peace but also contribute to a more positive atmosphere for everyone.
Instead of reacting to triggers, pause. Ask yourself: "Does this serve me or the moment?" Respond with intention, not impulse. Lead with compassion, knowing everyone brings their own experiences to the table and if yours are valid for you, then theirs are valid for them too. By staying anchored in what you can control, you'll create space to truly enjoy the season and its festivities.
Christmas isn’t about perfection; it’s about presence. So, unwrap the gift of self-control this holiday season and savour the connections that matter most. You might just find a little more joy under the tree. 🌟
Thank You for My Gift
Also, as we wrap up another year I’d like to extend a heartfelt thank you to everyone who trusted me with their teams this year. As part of post presentation follow up 2-7 days after the presentation, clients are asked “On a scale of 1-10 (where 1 is ‘never’ and 10 is ‘absolutely!’) how likely are you to recommend Kevin’s services to others?”
I’m humbled to say that the average score for 2024 is 9.83.
And, for those who prefer words to numbers, here’s a few words from some recent groups:
Vistage – Half day workshop for 10 business owners.
“I have been chairing a Vistage group of business owners in Brisbane for some 17 years. Each year we invite a number of speakers whether for a normal monthly board meeting or for our strategic retreats. Kevin presented to our board members October 2024. Quite simply everyone said he was the most impactful speaker they have ever heard. Need I say more?”
Fitness Cartel – Half day workshop for 40 in the leadership team.
“I first heard Kevin speak at a coaching group. We instantly knew this was the man we wanted to present to our team. As the stories and mindset were absolutely mind blowing and highly motivational. Definitely someone I would recommend and we will be booking him in again.”
Hazell Bros Construction – Keynote for 50 leaders
“Thank you, Kevin. The team were really engaged and enjoyed hearing your story. The content was exactly what we were after, particularly touching on mental struggles. The team said the presentation length was perfect and the booking process was smooth, especially given the quick turnaround time. Thanks again!”
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